“When the mask slips, you lose yourself”
You’re The MASKER
Keep scrolling for full bio and break down of your results!About The Masker
To the outside world, you look like you have it all together. The perfect career, partner, style. EVERYTHING! But the reality is you’re drowning and you’re afraid if you let the mask slip, people won’t like the real you.
What people don’t see, is how much energy and work it takes to keep it all from shattering. To keep you from shattering, like a porcelain dish.
You’ve spent your whole life twisting and contorting yourself to fit into a mold that keeps you ‘contained’. Small. Quiet. Manageable.
Your AuDHD diagnosis hit like a freight train of clarity and shame. There’s a reason why you were always too much. Why parts of you peeked through the perfection of your pre-determined mold. Why it could never contain you. You were meant to be more. Meant to be loud. Weird. Meant to take up space.
But until you learn how to take up space, to let the mask slip sometimes. To be too much or not enough. You will always wear the mask of perfection behind a cracked facade.
What's happening in your nervous system:
Masking is when a neurodivergent individual learns to hide and suppress themselves to blend in with neurotypicals. Sometimes late-diagnosed AuDHD adults have to mask in order to survive. Especially for women, LGBTQ+, and BIPOC individuals. The problem is that chronic masking keeps your nervous system in a near-constant stress response. Your body is constantly in performance mode.
Over time, this doesn't just cause burnout. It increases anxiety, depression, substance use disorders, chronic fatigue, brain fog, and many more. It disconnects you from yourself. You stop knowing what you actually want, need, or feel.
Tips to Support
The Masker:
Your Next Steps?
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Filled with gems, personal stories, and tips on navigating adulthood as someone who is AuDHD. Including articles on navigating masking.
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